Freedom from Big Foot Christianity

While you’re trying to roll out of bed at 6:30, they’ve been up since 4:00 doing pull-ups in their prayer closets and reciting Psalm 119 in perfect Hebrew. Those sparkly, brilliant, mega-Christians. Don’t they make you feel so small?

The good news is they’re not real.

It’s a conspiracy theory. Big Foot Christianity – the belief that super Christians exists (although no one has seen one in real life). At times, we think every semi-mature Christian is really Big Foot in disguise, but they’re not. They’re just Christians. Faithful and growing and saved-by-grace Christians.

Conspiracy theories and fuzzy pictures of Big Foot breed all sorts of icky stuff in our heads. So let’s confront the theory with reality.

Stop trying to impress Big Foot. I have to remember this every day (even right now). Writing feels a little vulnerable at times and I’d rather not screw it up. There are two options I have when sitting down to write it for you:

  1. Imagine the Big Foot eyes that will peer over my words while conjuring up more sanctified and eloquent thoughts than mine. And try to impress you.(or)
  2. Remember that Big Foot doesn’t exist. Then maybe I can help someone else get over themselves enough to grow closer to Christ today too.

My default is #1. I have to choose to believe #2, and sometimes the transition is tough. It helps to have clear pictures to replace those fuzzy ones. This Scripture does it for me:

1 Corinthians 4:7
For who sees anything different in you? What do you have that you did not receive? If then you received it, why do you boast as if you did not receive it?

Everything we have is a gift. You did not change your own diapers or pay rent in Kindergarten. You weren’t saved in a vacuum either. At some point, a man or woman was brave enough to share the gospel with you. Then somebody else (or more likely several people) showed you truths about Christianity and life and leadership.

Anything valuable you give to others is the result of what you’ve been given. And the wisest, godliest people you know are the products of what they’ve been given. There are no self-made, super Christians.

You don’t have to prove yourself to Big Foot (and you don’t have to be him).

Immunize Against Bruce Wayne Syndrome

Do you secretly believe you’re the strongest link to your organization, church, or team? Good thing they have you, right? If they didn’t, things would implode.

This is early onset Bruce Wayne Syndrome.

For Batman’s alter-ego, a normal day in Gotham City is spent schmoozing with CEO’s and listening to celebrities gab about politics. He puts up with it okay; except on frustrating days. The days when a street cop or two takes a jab at the Dark Knight.  That’s when the Syndrome makes his mind seethe with resentment.

“If you only knew what I’m capable of…” he’d think, as they blabbered on about their opinion.

“If you really knew what I brought to this city, it’d be all you could do not to fall all over me.”

I battle Bruce Wayne Syndrome as well. And anytime the virus seeps into my heart, I inoculate myself with this Scripture before it’s too late.

Romans 12:3
For through the grace given to me I say to everyone among you not to think more highly of himself than he ought to think; but to think so as to have sound judgment, as God has allotted to each a measure of faith.

When it comes to leading in an organization, two freeing realities emerge from this verse:

  1. Your value is dependent on God’s saving grace as His adopted son/daughter.
  2. Your leadership, while valuable, is also replaceable. (Even if you really are the strongest link)

Meditate on Romans 12:3 until those two things are true in your life. Otherwise, Bruce Wayne Syndrome might send you to the hospital.


For a helpful (and short) book, check out Tim Keller’s The Freedom of Self-Forgetfulness.  You can also listen to the audio version in 40 minutes.

Swapping Instant for Present

“Wherever you are, be all there.” – Jim Elliott

Newspapers, record players, and physical books will make a comeback in the next 5-10 years. That’s my theory anyway. And a new breed of hipster won’t be the trendsetters for it either. The innovation will come from those who have felt the toll of the instant.

Instant texts
Instant emails
Instagram
(and instant replies)

When we traded present for instant, it was a rotten deal. Instant can’t replace present. Being present means being fully somewhere. Instant won’t afford you that luxury. Instant makes you eye the phone when it buzzes during a conversation.  It’s the ever present third-wheel. Instant has wiped our memories of days when we weren’t always accessible.

The other week I was listening to a blues record solely because my record player can’t receive emails or texts or Snapchat. It just plays BB King. And my newspaper on the front porch every morning is filled with news. No click-bait about the president. No analytics for a marketer to read in his fluorescent lair. Just news (and sometimes sports).

It’s not all the smartphone’s fault. Going back to flip-phones won’t solve it (although some have tried, and made the New York Times). I don’t think deleting Facebook, Twitter, and everything in between will fix it either. The answer is learning to be present again. It can leave eternity ringing in your ears.

Matthew 6:33-34
But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.

The paradox is, when my focus is the Kingdom of Heaven, it let’s me be here. I can take a breath and remember that I will exist forever as an adopted son of the Living God.

When I am present…

  • I can sit still and enjoy the normal moments (try this today)
  • I have more fun with my kids
  • Turning my phone off isn’t a big deal
  • That loud, frantic volume blaring inside my soul gets quieter

I am a son now, and I will be a son then. It makes me want to seek that Kingdom first, and be present with the people and circumstances around me.

(once I close my paper Bible and fold up the sports section, of course)

The Critical Heart Stops Beating

Cranky three-year-olds have a lot in common with critical people. If you’ve ever tried to reason with a tired child, it’s always frustrating and sometimes hilarious. Nothing makes anything better.

Also, anything makes everything worse.

It’s because the issue causing all the ruckus is never the real problem. He’s not mad because his rocket ship was left in the living room. He’s mad because he’s tired and his sinful flesh is on full display. The rocket ship just happens to be the focus of his fussing at the moment. When you bring him the toy, he’ll shift his fussing to something else.

The critical heart beats like this as well.

Matthew 11:16-19
And Jesus said, “But to what shall I compare this generation? It is like children sitting in the marketplaces and calling to their playmates,

 ‘We played the flute for you, and you did not dance;
    we sang a dirge, and you did not mourn.’

For John came neither eating nor drinking, and they say, ‘He has a demon.’ The Son of Man came eating and drinking, and they say, ‘Look at him! A glutton and a drunkard, a friend of tax collectors and sinners!’ Yet wisdom is justified by her deeds.”

When Jesus was looking for a good description of the critical heart, he compared it to a bunch of fussy kids. Back in those days, young children would play wedding or funeral in the marketplace. When the kids would play wedding, they pretended to perform music and danced while the “bride and groom” said their vows. Everyone was invited.

But the fussy kids didn’t want to play that game. All they wanted to do was stew in a huff.

So, the others changed the game to funeral (a little morbid, but it was what they knew). Well, the fussy kids didn’t want to play that game, either. These religious people, with their critical hearts, were acting the same way.

Jesus revealed that this was not about him or John the Baptist. It was a heart issue. Their hearts were weary, heavy laden, and on full display. So, Jesus offered rest for their souls, but they got critical instead; making it seem like this was someone else’s fault. In short, they missed the gospel.

This can happen to all of us. If I get critical (like when I see everything else around me as the problem), then I am in the most need of rest in Christ. The answer is almost never found in what I’m criticizing anyway. You can solve that “problem” and I’ll find another one to cast my cares upon. A critical heart is nothing more than the reflection of a weary soul.

In those moments, choose your next step carefully. Instead of growing cynical, embrace being led beside still waters and take the light yoke of a burden-carrying Savior (Psalm 23, Matthew 11:29).

Then go play with the other kids.

Garth, Elvis, and the King

The smell of the Jungle Room is something people would kill to have known 40 years ago. “I went to GRACELAND!” they’d say while readjusting their layers of clunky jewelry. There was a time when the king sold out stadiums to screaming fans. People would (literally) faint at the sight of him, and I was standing in his kitchen.

We toured the grounds the morning after we saw Garth Brooks play to a packed house at the FedEx Forum. His concert, while amazing, struck me differently as I stood over Elvis’ grave that next day. There buried next to his pool was a man who knew the fame and the sound of adoring fans; nothing separating us but four decades. Yet there were fingerprints of regret on every surface of his house.

“For what will it profit a man if he gains the whole world and forfeits his soul? Or what shall a man give in return for his soul?” Matthew 16:26

Even though he had everything money and fame could offer, Elvis was an overall tortured individual. His life (coupled with Garth’s concert the night before) stood as a clear reminder that the bright and shiny things of this world don’t last very long. They will always let us down.

“All flesh is like grass, and all its glory like the flower of grass. The grass withers, and the flower falls but the word of the Lord remains forever. And this word is the good news that was preached to you.” 1 Peter 1:24-25

If whatever concerns you today is not something that will concern you 1,000 years from now, it’s probably not that important. So, as you read this, commit to walk in step with a King and Kingdom that will last forever (Matthew 6:33). 

And if a moment comes where this world seems brighter or shinier than the Kingdom of Heaven, just go to the musty Jungle Room and take a deep breath. 

What Our Hobbies Say About Us

Creativity is the corner where work and wonder meet. My wife finds it best in her garden. Even as she fusses over the thievery of squirrels or a sluggish tomato crop, turning over dirt and experiencing every stage of life does something unique to her soul.  As she creates and nurtures, the reflection of her nurturing Creator can be seen.

That’s why hobbies are so important.

But we need a new word for “hobbies.” Most hear it and think, “a luxury meant for people who aren’t as busy as I am.” So, let’s rewrite the definition more clearly.

Hobbies: something you do because you love it, not because you need it.

That’ll work for now. When you do something simply because you love it, the creative part of God in us shines forth. Hobbies aren’t necessary for survival per se. We don’t need music, yet there are artifacts from 6,000+ years ago of animal bones shaped into flutes by men and women.

Aeons before early humans started imagining writing or agriculture, they were crafting tools for making music…the most abstract of the arts. No one likes a hit record because it sounds like the natural world. We like music because it sounds like music – because it sounds different.

Steven Johnson
Wonderland: How Play Made the Modern World

When our ancestors were huddled around a fire trying to stay warm, they also created by singing and dancing and inventing. It’s always been that way. Like a signet ring on wax, we are all stamped into the image of our Creator.

Wonder and fun and creativity are a part of the abundant life Jesus came to bring (John 10:10). Whereas some try to find their refuge within recreation itself, Christians get to experience all of creation with the Refuge Himself. Life in Christ simply brings life to everything else.

So, if life is too frantic to do (or discover) something you love, you are not being productive. You’re surviving. Productivity means producing, and that requires creativity and wonder – a hobby. Something that creates a spark in you when talking about it with other people.

What creates a spark in you?

Take roasting coffee, for example. I can bore the brains out of most people talking about the nuances and chemistry that happens when a coffee bean hits “first crack” in my drum roaster, yet it’s fascinating. A lot of my friends prefer grabbing their store-bought Keurig cups on their way out the door, but they don’t love coffee like I do. There’s a wonder to it that sparks the creative part of my heart.

Every morning, as I brew a pour-over, I imagine someone in Japan or Ethiopia or Brazil (other coffee-crazed countries) doing the same thing. In a huge world where my little life can almost feel swallowed up by insignificance, it reminds me that we are connected as people. I may not understand their language or culture, but a hot drink made with carefully burned cherry seeds shows our common humanity. One created in the image of God and redeemed by Christ. In other words, a connected life filled with significance.

I love it so much I don’t even care how ridiculous it is that I’m blogging about coffee right now (which, by definition, is basically the most Millennial thing someone can do).

You may find the same sort of wonder in golf or beekeeping or fishing or stamp collecting. Or perhaps it’s time for you to discover something new altogether. Whatever it is, don’t add it to your schedule because you need to be “well-rounded.” Do it because of the wonder and excitement it sparks in your heart. Remember, Christ came that we might have life, and have it abundantly.

What is something you do because you love it, not because you need it? I’d like to hear about it – post in the comments below!

Stress vs. Success: Do You Know the Difference?

Think about the last conversation you had with a co-worker or catching up with a relative. It probably went along these lines:

“How are things?” they ask.

“Oh man,” you reply, “busy. Non-stop.”

But that’s sort of our roundabout way of saying, “My life is successful right now.” Aware of it or not, we live in a country that places a high cultural value on busyness. Being busy, of course, is not a bad thing. Having stressful seasons is not necessarily bad either.

I’m convinced, however, that busyness is not the source of our stress (or success); it’s simply the excuse. Why is life stressful right now? We tell ourselves it’s because of our pace or circumstance or life-stage.

THE REAL PROBLEM IS IDENTITY

I adrenalized through almost ten years of ministry that way, then hit a wall, and collapsed in despair.  “I’ll never succeed in (leadership, ministry, parenting, marriage, etc.),” I’d tell myself. Success, I wrongly assumed, was only possible if I worked twice as hard as my current pace. So stress built up, and the joy in my life was pushed out.

At the end of the day, it wasn’t busyness that was killing me. It was misplaced identity. (And by “identity,” I mean, “the source of life’s purpose and value.”)

Here’s what I knew in my head was supposed to be true:
My identity and success is not tied to what I do, but what Jesus did.

Here’s what I believed in my heart and lived out in real life:
My identity and success is tied to what I do, and what others think of me.

Sure, I could tell you all the right answers (and preach the sermon and ace the paper), but I wasn’t living as if any of it were true. My level of stress and idea of success exposed the gap in my faith.

In his book Knowing God, J.I. Packer sums up the issue succinctly:

The current state of affairs certainly makes it possible to learn a great deal secondhand about the practice of Christianity…[but] you can have all the right notions in your head without ever tasting in your heart the realities to which they refer.

THE KEY TO SUCCESS IS COMPARISON

The Apostle Paul was a pretty impressive guy. When it came to theological education, he had the equivalent of at least one PhD and was highly networked. Then he encountered the risen Christ face-to-face and his value system transformed. This is how Paul describes it:

Philippians 3:7-8
But whatever gain I had, I counted as loss for the sake of Christ.  Indeed, I count everything as loss because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord.

Paul was not saying that righteousness was bad (any more than making a difference in the world with your career is bad), but it was garbage compared to knowing Christ. Anything that society deemed “successful” was counted by him as loss when placed beside the worth of knowing Jesus.

Ask yourself, “How well do I know Jesus?”

Don’t ask, “What all do I know about Jesus?” or, “Do I know what Christians are supposed to believe?” But, instead, “How well do I actually know the risen Son of God?” Do you open His Word and listen as it reshapes you? Do you pray and ask The Holy Spirit to work in your life?

SOME MARKS OF SUCCESS

According to Jesus, success is not measured in busyness but in faithfulness (Matthew 25:23). When your value and purpose are tied to the finished work of Jesus, you can rest amidst chaotic seasons. Stress will not adrenalize you to burnout.

And, if knowing Christ is better than all things, then these realities should also be true in our lives:

  1. My career is fulfilling because I know that, though recognition may not come now, it will one day (Matthew 6:1-4).
  1. Because my success does not hinge on the opinions of people, I can receive encouragement from others without fearing their “real opinion.” I can also receive rebuke knowing that my sin is paid for and I am on a journey of being perfected by Christ. I can care what people think without being afraid of what they think.
  1. Because my identity is not tied to my career, I am able to walk away from any work and not walk away from my value as a person.
  1. Because true success comes from my relationship with Christ, everything (even minor stuff) has deep-rooted significance. “Whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God” 1 Corinthians 10:31.Matt Perman’s book What’s Best Next? How the Gospel Transforms the Way You Get Things Done was a tremendous help for me in understanding the gravity of good works in light of the glory of God. Buy it and read it.

THE BEST NEXT STEP

How are things? Are they busy? Are you stressed or overwhelmed? Have you hit the wall of despair? 

The solution is not your ability to produce, but your willingness to press on. Accept the prophet Hosea’s invitation.

Hosea 6:3
Let us know; let us press on to know the Lord;
his going out is sure as the dawn;
he will come to us as the showers,
as the spring rains that water the earth.